Personalized Rituals

MARKING THE THRESHOLD

A woman in white dress walks through a desert

When your life falls apart, you need more than therapy sessions and coping strategies. You need a way to mark the passage—to honor what’s dying, bless what’s being born, and witness the threshold you’re crossing.

This is what ritual does.

Ritual slows us down. It takes us out of the chaos and into the sacred. It gives form to the formless devastation and meaning to the unbearable loss.

When you’re standing at the doorway between who you were and who you’re becoming—when the bones of your old life are scattered and you’re learning to gather them back—ritual helps you sing yourself into being.

We spend so much time fighting reality. Fighting the divorce. Fighting the empty nest. Fighting the diagnosis. Fighting the death. But change cannot happen until we stop fighting and start surrendering.

Only when we admit what is true—even when it’s devastating—can healing begin.

This is where ritual meets you: in the surrender, in the truth, in the threshold.

A ritual is an embodied symbolic act that creates meaning from change.

It’s a way to gather the scattered bones of what was and arrange them with intention. To acknowledge the death. To honor the life that existed. To mark the passage from one identity to another.

Ritual is La Loba’s song over the bones.

In our work together, I help you design a ceremony that reflects your unique passage—your grief, your hope, your rage, your becoming. Whether you need to mark an ending, honor a beginning, or witness the liminal space in between, ritual provides the container.

This is not generic ceremony. This is YOUR song, YOUR bones, YOUR threshold.

Ritual serves us during threshold moments—those devastating transitions when the old self dies and the new self hasn’t yet been born:

ENDINGS & LOSSES:

  • Divorce or relationship ending
  • Empty nest (child leaving home)
  • Death of a loved one or death anniversary
  • Pregnancy loss or infertility grief
  • Loss of independence (ability to drive, live alone, work)
  • Leaving a job, retiring, or career identity loss
  • Moving from a home that held your life
  • Friendship endings that feel like death
  • Death of a dream or hope

HEALTH CRISES:

  • Receiving a life-altering diagnosis
  • Beginning or completing treatment for illness
  • Honoring the body’s changes (mastectomy, chronic illness)
  • Navigating terminal illness

TRANSITIONS:

  • Moving an aging parent into care
  • Recovery from addiction (marking sobriety milestones)
  • Vigil ceremonies for those dying
  • Any moment when you need to mark the passage between who you were and who you’re becoming

All of these are emotional deaths. And death deserves to be witnessed.

Ritual is empowering because it gives you agency in a situation where you feel powerless.

You can’t control the divorce, the diagnosis, the death, the loss. But you CAN control how you mark it. How you witness it. How you honor what was and open to what’s becoming.

Ritual says: “This mattered. This grief is real. This ending deserves to be seen. And I’m choosing to move through this threshold with intention rather than just surviving it.”

When we bring ritual into threshold experiences, we:

  • Gain perspective on the change
  • Feel less alone in the devastation
  • Create meaning from chaos
  • Honor both shadow and light
  • Return to a sense of wholeness that transition has shattered

Every ritual is an act of gathering your bones and singing them back to life.

“Let us be reminded to stop and recognize that something is happening. To feel, create distinction, to be discerning, to remember, to grieve, to heal, and ultimately, to begin again and again. In doing so we embody the heartbreak as a form of love worth our reverence…”

Jennifer Zona

Service Details

Intake

A scheduled intake meeting will be held to understand your story and begin to build the design elements
to your ritual by using your words and ideas. I will provide guidance for options, advice for readings,
music selection, and location if needed. During this time we will finalize and sign an agreement and
a deposit for services will be made.

  • 90 minute session
  • In person is preferred however online is available

 

Drafting The Ritual

A personalized ritual will be created to include all the components that were agreed upon during the intake.
This is your personalized ritual and any alterations will be made till you are completely satisfied.
During this time you have access to contact me to discuss details regarding the ritual.

  • Drafts will be provided to the client for approval within ten days

 

“The times are urgent; Let us slow down…”

BÁYÒ AKÓMOLÁFÉ